Five Stages of Grief and Leaving the World
As we look around the landscape of this growing movement that is the “Hebrew Roots” or “Messianic Judaism” awakening, I started to see a pattern. Most people, when coming out of the mainstream church went through period of being “alone” (however you define that). My family was “alone” yet we had our parents who were also on this journey. Alone in the sense that we didn’t have a community to fellowship with.
I equate that to the pattern Paul went through. He KNEW the law (as Christians profess to KNOW Jesus). He had to be alone for three years to RELEARN / UNLEARN everything he thought he knew. I see this as the cleansing period. After that period, for some, the Father starts to bring people of like mind together and building communities. In between all that time I see another pattern emerged.
I liken coming out of the religious institutions to the five stages of loss / grieving. The five stages: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance are the framework for many people’s walk:
How could I possibly believe all these lies from my church and family?!
All you pagan idolatry in Christianity have no idea! Stop posting on my wall, I have no business being your friend, you’re all lost!! That’s pagan! You’re pagan! Pagan!!!
Ok, we can be friends, just dont do your pagan stuff around me or ask me to do them with you. I’ve settled down now, sorry.
No one wants to be my friend. I’ve burned too many bridges with family too. I’m alone and I’m the only one doing what I do. Was this a mistake? Was I lied to again?
I am Israel. I’ve come out of Egypt and my Father will gather me to my people in His time, not mine. I have accepted Yeshua as my Messiah and follow Torah, that is my purpose in life.
Keep moving forward
After dealing with the stages of loss/grieving, it’s time to get down to Business!
Business – Now that I know who I am and I know my purpose (Ecclesiastes 12:13), I can be about my Father’s business of taking the true Gospel of the Kingdom to the whole world while He gathers the two sticks of Judah (Jews who have the Torah) and Joseph (Christians who have the Messiah) together as one bride (Israel) who prepares for the coming bridegroom (Yeshua, The Messiah).