Yom Kippur Self Examination: 10 Days of Awe Series – Day Five
“Respect your father and your mother, so that your days are prolonged upon the soil which יהוה your Elohim is giving you. ~ Exodus 20:12
1. Have I been disrespectful to my parents or inattentive to their advice, counsel and concern for me?
2. Have I been lacking in love for them? Do they know that I love them? Have I failed to not only tell them, but show them?
3. Have I withheld love for them out of hurt past or present, bitterness of disappointment, or desire to hurt them, lack of forgiveness?
4. Have I disobeyed them?
5. Have I neglected them or failed to help them, for selfish reasons or lack of desire to do so?
6. Have I cared for my parents in their illnesses or old age as I am able to and in a selfless and grateful attitude?
7. Have I deceived my parents or caused them pain by my words or deeds or actions? Have I confessed such and asked them for forgiveness?
8. Have I prayed for my parents and other family daily?
9. Have I done my duty toward my family? Have I witnessed to Yeshua’s saving grace and abundant life of holiness and righteousness to hurting and lost family?
10. Husbands: Have I been loved my wife as Messiah loves His chosen ones, His Body? Have I loved and not neglected the “wife of my youth”, provided for my families needs, spiritually and physically? Have I been a burden or a blessing to my wife, prayed with her, have I studied the Torah with her and my family, leading them in the Ways of YHVH? (as commanded and as an example to our children)
11. Wives: Have I been obedient helpmate to my husband, allowing and encouraging him to be the spiritual leaders and head of your home? Have I been lacking in seeing to the needs and care of my family, by neglecting the making of my home a place of love, safety, refuge, comfort, health, cleanliness, learning of YHVH, prayer, hospitality, healing, wise use of resources, stewardship, bearing good fruit, and joy? (as commanded and as an example to your children)
12. Have I encouraged peace and mutual respect among the members of my family, who depend on me for help, counsel, guidance and support?
13. Have I been wanting/failing in love for my spouse or harmed him/her in any way?
14. Have I set a good example for my children? And to the Body?
15. Have I tried to rear my children in holiness and righteousness, guiding and teaching them to the same in word, deeds, actions and example?
16. Have I disciplined them with patience and with Torah? Or in anger?
17. Have I been overindulgent with my children?
18. Have I been stingy with any members of my family or with others? In what ways have I not been a blessing to my family or others?
19. Have I been lacking in forgiveness of any of my family or with others?
20. Have I honored and given proper respect those who are older than I?
21. Have I shown respect for all others?
22. Have I mocked or made fun of anyone?
23. Do I seek my parents wisdom, counsel and advise (concerning their experience in Torah)?
24. Am I being a good steward of those intangible gifts and blessings that my parents have
handed down to me? Have I been and am I grateful and thankful for what they have done/doing for me?
25. Am I teaching my children to respect their elders?
26. Am I staying in touch with older family members and helping with their needs as I am able?
27. Am I showing adequate concern for the needs of older people and meeting them as I am able and led to?Day Six